One Thing This Year



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Years past have gone by leaving memories in their wake.  Some of them were planned, coaxed or designed into being.  A few bombasted their way into my heart unexpectedly, forever leaving nooks where they lay cherished.  This year I would like to do something different.

For a long while, I’ve let the blog breathe in hibernation, while I concerned myself with being the best company for my ailing mother.  When she passed, I didn’t think to come back to blogging, though frequently I thought of writing about her, the lessons she passed on to her children and the world, the person she was and the life she fathered.  I would like one day to tell of how she died and the way every day towards the end she taught me how to live.

That is for another blog.  For today, I’d like to say welcome back, to me and Joyful adventures.  I also have a small announcement to make.  After many years of wondering how I would do it, I’ve launched into a new project that is about mutual development.  It’s self-development plus one.  Allow me to explain.

Have you ever thought it would be great to have a record of your effort at becoming a better person?  That someone can be there as a sound board to reflect back to you what you are doing right, wrong and encourages you to take the other step?  Or that someone close can be there to share the fruits of your efforts – the glory, the satisfaction, the joy of staying true to your promise?

This is a recurring wish for me.  I thought about writing letters to pass to a law firm who would only release the letters to me at a designated time in the future.  I’d open these despatches understanding that here is a person who is loving and kind, who had taken the time to cheer me along the journey.  I would write a letter in response, address it to the me-in-one-year, to send her a blast of love and support from the past.

Finally this year, I’m rolling it out – the One Thing This Year project – where I invite a few friends to witness my journey on an area of focus that I choose.  In return, I bear witness to them.  The how is up to each of us because I trust that even when we don’t have the answers, we have the ability to ask and find them.

Focus on One Thing.  Trust your wisdom.  Support the tribe.

In the path to becoming the one you intend to be, your best self, to practice alone can breed illusions, and it can be lonely.  This is why I created OTTY.  Not only to recognise the beauty and strengths of others as they continue to work on their commitment but to be privileged with a group of self-helping people reflecting back at me as well.  So there you have it, three components of OTTY.  The self as a teacher, The other as the reinforcer, and The lesson that comes from within.

OTTY 2018 starts March 1 and ends December 31.  Witness here.


Get through a crisis (you may think you can’t; I know you can)


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Something has happened.  It’s rocked your world, and not in the way you want it rocked.

You can get through this.

Maybe things have hit the fan and the consequences are falling as we speak at the speed of shrapnel.  Maybe things have settled down and you find yourself stuck.  You could be the opposite and have found renewed vigour.  Life’s too short, too unpredictable – can’t waste a single minute.

Hold up.


Check that you’re okay.  Good?

Look at where you’re going.  If you see nothing, look a little further.  Still nought?  Stop.  Breathe.  Look.  The one glint in the murk is looking out for you, too.

This is why I know we can get through this.

We need just one reason to keep going.

No matter how small, how faint.

Take it one step, one day, one breath at a time.